Ancestral Healing and the Mother Wound

Have you ever felt that the pain you carry runs deeper than your own experiences? That it stretches back into your family’s history, your mother’s, her mother’s, and even further? If this resonates, you may be feeling the effects of the Mother Wound.

The Mother Wound isn’t just yours—it’s inherited and passed down through generations. You may have felt criticism, abandonment, or even subtle competition, often unknowingly transmitted. Sometimes, it’s easy to overlook—after all, you might think, “My mother wasn’t jealous of me,” or “She didn’t compete with me.” But what about those deep-seated, lingering beliefs that cause pain—like feeling undeserving of success or fearing that pursuing your dreams might hurt someone else?

These experiences, while painful, are part of a much larger ancestral pattern. The Iroquois tribe believed that healing oneself affects not only the next seven generations but also the seven before*. In modern times, research in epigenetics is backing this up—suggesting that when we change, we don’t just heal ourselves, but we influence our very genes and pass those shifts on to future generations. From a spiritual perspective, some believe we can even impact the past through our healing energy. 

As I work with clients healing from trauma, I’ve seen this ancestral connection unfold time and time again. We are more than just our five senses. We are energetic beings, and there is power in tapping into our heart's energy. In fact, the HeartMath Institute has found that heart-brain coherence can bring deep states of well-being.

Their research highlights how expanding our attention from what we can see, hear, and touch to include our heart energy and the subtle energy systems within and around us can open the door to healing.

If you're experiencing a Mother Wound, learning to trust again, to open to receiving love, and to heal wounds that have lingered for generations is a journey. Healing from the Mother Wound can feel difficult, especially when you’ve learned early on that your voice, desires, or inner wisdom aren't valued. Trusting again, receiving support, and nurturing that deep inner guide takes time, but it’s possible. I’ve found that Reiki, a gentle energetic healing practice, has been a powerful tool in my sessions. Unlike the Mother Wound, Reiki is a practice of consent—it’s a way to heal that respects your boundaries.

You will also find Overcoming the Mother Wound, a resourceful guidebook that supports your transformation journey. It uses creative and embodied tools to unpack and kickstart healing complicated wounds.

If you’re carrying the weight of a Mother Wound, whether it feels heavy or just a whisper in the background, know that healing is possible. And if you feel ready, I’d be honored to be part of your journey.